Take it if you may

“You have nothing to do with the master of Thornfield, further than to receive the salary he gives you for teaching his protégée, and to be grateful for such respectful treatment as, if you do your duty, you have a right to expect at his hands. Be sure that is the only tie he seriously acknowledges between you and him: so don't make him the object of your fine feelings, your raptures, agonies, and so forth. He is not of your order: keep to your caste; and be too self-respecting to lavish the love of the whole heart, soul, and strength, where such a gift is not wanted and would be despised.” (165)

Jane, I consider you a most intelligent and apt lady whom has come to learn how to control her feelings and emotions throughout her life by overcoming a variety of experiences. You are able to stop, think, analyze, think once more, and take control of a situation. However, it seems as if though you have stumbled upon an awfully difficult situation concerning your feeling toward the master of Thornfield, Mr. Rochester. Your heart has fallen for him even though it's not right and can bring many troubles to your yet young life. Jane, you must understand that you shouldn't mix your profession with your personal life. Mr. Rochester is your boss and that is the only thing you should let him be. At first when you feel “a sickening sense of disappointment” (164) because you find out Mr. Rochester will be gone for almost a year, you are able to think clearly and give yourself the advice above, but now you are beginning to forget that advice.

My advice to you, Jane, is to simply follow your own advice. Do not let your heart fall into the fangs of a man whom you know very little about and hides many secrets. I believe he is only trying to use you to escape his past or some other unpleasant secret. I conclude this from the fact that he has been asking you many questions about yourself and your feelings toward him, but he refuses to answer many of your questions and does not tell you the truth about everything that is going on around Thornfield Hall. Instead of telling you the truth about his past straight forward, he tells you part of it but making it seem as if its someone else that is going through this, just as he did during your walk with him after Mason was stabbed.

Jane you have suffered and endured much in your short life already, so therefore I don't think you should go through any more troubles due to a man of unruly manners and habits as is Mr. Rochester. As I said once before, my advice to you is to simply stop, think, analyze, think once more, and take control of the situation by following your own advice. Take it if you may.