Find someone better

Dear Jane,

I would like to give you an advise about your so call “love life”. So now that I know you and Mr. Rochester have like a “thing” going on, I think it would be better if you stay away from him, in a way that you should not see him as more than your boss, because that's what he is to you. You went to Thornfield to work as a governess not to find someone to fall in love with. But I'm not writing to you to criticize you. I'm here to help you. So in my opinion, I think that you should find someone your age, and someone that you have things in common, unlike Mr. Rochester, you have almost nothing in common, and to make it even worst he is old enough to be your dad. Concidering this, Jane, you're in a very delicate situation, so it would be better to avoid falling in love with Mr. Rochester; not only because you don't know him that well, but what if he doesn't feel the same way you do? We don't know for sure if he does, and even if we did, we wouldn't be sure if he wants something serious or he would like to be with you to mess around. Nevertheless, back to the main point, he's your BOSS!! And by that, my conclusion goes as you can't be mixing up your love life with your work! That's not right. And also you said the same thing yourself: “You have nothing to do with the master of Thornfield, further than to receive the salary he gives you for teaching hies protégée, and to be grateful for such respectful and kind treatment as, if you do your duty, you have the right to expect at his hands. Be sure that is the only tie he seriously acknowledges between you and him: so don't make the object of your fine feelings, your raptures, agonies, and so forth. He is not of your order: keep to your caste; and be too self-respecting to lavish the love of the whole heart, soul. And strength, where such a gift is not wanted and would be despised.”(165).

And plus think about it, why is it that someone is trying to kill him? I don't think that nobody wants to kill him because he's a good person; it's more likely that they want to kill him because he did something wrong. Also, why is he going to marry Blanche Ingram? This shows that he doesn't feel the same way you do. So, as a friend I'm just giving you and advise, but at the end of the day you're the one making the right choice. All I know is that I'm giving you my sincere opinion, but also by you listening to your heart is a good thing, but thinking with your head is even better. And hopefully now that I'm telling you, Jane, that you need to find someone better, is because I think that that's the best choice. And plus you deserve someone better than him; someone that will respect you. So hopefully, you can find someone that truly deserves to be by your side for the rest of your life.