Patience Is the Key to success

When someone's young, the last thing they should be thinking about is settling down. You should live your life and take everything slow. You have your whole life to worry about settling down and getting married. At age 18, the most of one's worries should be having fun and meeting new people, not getting married. That's why I think that Jane was too young to be getting married. And Mr. Rochester isn't all that great of a guy, he had his flaws and big ones too. In Charlotte Bronte's novel Jane Eyre, she has a main character named Jane trying to settle down to soon, I think. Jane needs to have patience with love and just let things fall into place the way they were suppose to; she needs to not rush things.

To start Mr. Rochester is an odd fellow. He has many secrets and that makes him suspicious of many things. To me he's untrustworthy. I wouldn’t trust a guy that had so many skeletons in the closet. And this is a reason why I think that Jane shouldn’t rush into a relationship with him. Just like Eric says in his blog titled It is too much, “Being with him is too much for her; too much adventure and too many secrets that could hurt her in the future. He is a very secretive man. It seems that every time Jane tries to ask him something he finds a clever way to avoid the question.” It takes time to get to trusting someone and more loving someone. Jane has come from a bad past, and she hasn’t really experienced life. She doesn’t know what love or heart-break is and she needs time to learn.

At 18 years old you don’t really know what you want. That’s when you are trying to find out whom you are and what you want to do with your life. Thornfield is Jane’s first look of the real word, just because she thinks that she has found something good doesn’t mean she has to keep it. She needs to be patient and not force things. It’s kind of like my basketball coach says, “If the pass it to risky, don’t force it that way.” Even though sometimes you have to make risks. Like Arof says in this blog titled Life's A Gamble, Have Fun, “...life is truly a gamble and you are the only thing that can better it.” Jane made an excellent choice in leaving Thornfield. It was risky, because she was leaving the person she loved, Mr. Rochester, but it was a necessary thing to do. She was being patient and finding out who she was and what she really wanted in life.

I think when it comes to things like love and you have a choose between making yourself happy and making the other person happy, you should pick yourself. If you aren't happy, then your relationship it just going to fall down the drain. It doesn't work with just one person putting his or her part. And if the other person is holding you back from your happiness, then you just need to drop everything and leave. In Jane's case, she didn't feel it was right to marry Mr. Rochester at the time. She didn't feel that autonomy in order for the relationship to work out. She she left. And in my opinion that was the best decision she made. She was looked at it and said this isn't right; I can't marry Mr. Rochester on these terms. She finally thought about herself first! She is being patient and taking everything at her pace.

I believe that this old saying that was in Erika's blog titled Leave it all behind,"if it's true love let it go and it will come back." I believe this is true. Things happen for a reason. I think it was meant to be for Jane to find out about Bertha. This helped her leave Mr. Rochester and pursue what she wanted. She experienced many good and bad things along the way; poverty, no food or shelter, and family. All these experiences opened her eyes to how life really was. And made her the person she is now. The person saying “Reader, I married him.”